I knew I’d have more to say about this. It isn’t that it’s bad or wrong for anyone to be any certain way – we are all who are. It’s that it’s unproductive to change yourself for the sake of attempting to make someone else happy. I could even say it’s unproductive to change yourself in an attempt to make someone else be something they’re not.
We come together for all of sorts of reasons. Sometimes we come together for life. Sometimes for just a short while. That’s true for humans and animals. We attract what we attract because of who we are and the energy we are sending out. So to say that I attracted someone in my life who is weak emotionally is accurate. I did. And Amen for it. I learned some things from it and I’m better for having had the experience! (He really does have the nicest blue eyes though.)
I learned that I don’t have to water myself down for anyone. I learned that the best relationships are balanced. I even had a real Aha! moment last night when I realized something that was bubbling under the surface of my life for quite some time.
The truth is that I feel really comfortable with strong people and really uncomfortable with weak people. It’s the same for horses. I feel really comfortable with strong Left Brain Introverts but when I had a Right Brain Introvert in my pasture, I adapted. It’s exactly what I tried to do with the human Right Brain Introvert I found myself involved with. I tried to adapt and did for a bit. In the end, he isn’t a match for me and he had to go away. Clarity is a good thing.
It’s good to know – really good to know – that I thrive around LBI’s. I’ll look for them from now on – in horses and people. In my book, it’s always better to thrive than just survive. As a friend of mine said, “You know that I’ll be reaching for higher ground”.
Tallyho!
